I’m excited to say that there is a group of Empaths that has been formed that challenge the negativity seen in being an Empath. This group, the Empath Love Resource Group on Facebook group is expert in every way and diverse in thoughts and theory about being an Empath. The conversations have been rich in content and idea, and brilliant in focus. Many have been handpicked by myself and other membership. Because of this level of expertise I’m excited to present guest postings on the Empath Love Blog.
The first of these is my a former work colleague of mine converted into very close friend, named Matt. He has a way with words and the insight of an experience Empath. There’s not doubt that he’s experienced much and lived through the challenges of being empathic to come out the other side a loving and positive. Below are his words and I’m very excited to present them.
Show of hands who watches the news? This isn’t about where you watch, just that you do watch. As an empath watching, you’re also feeling things. You care deeply for your fellow human beings on this planet. It’s a lot of noise.
Something I think is imperative for any empath is having a filter. We hear noise, a LOT. Not just your emotions, but the world’s. How many of us sat for a moment in sorrow over a news story? Covid, fires, hey throw a dart at the board lately people. What do you do with all that noise?
Me, I filter it down to what I can immediately impact. Controlling your controlables (Arlo Lorenz life rule for you guys). Wait I hear those wilting and budding empaths here saying “how do you filter all the noise?”. First, there is a lot of noise, now more than ever. Massive world events that impacted all 7 billion Homo sapiens on this planet cough*covid*cough. Then there’s the smaller individual events we have. Kids misbehaving, pets misbehaving, things breaking on your house, day to day things in our lives that make our heads hurt!
So how do you filter, how do you find the controllables you can control? You do so, by simply finding your meditative state that connects you to the energy matrix of our big blue marble. The activity is not what matters, the meditative state achieved by doing the activity is. This is where you find your filter.
I’ll use myself and Arlo here as examples because we’ve both discussed this at some length. Me: lifting, hiking, playing a video game (yes at times I am that guy playing grand theft auto and obeying the traffic laws to get a virtual drive in), meditating, listening to music, or having a very one sided conversation with my dog. Arlo: swimming, mediation, writing, gardening, carpentry projects, listening to music, playing piano, reading.
The point here is if you are stuck in a rut of some kind, you’re not going to stay there forever. You just need to find that special thing that gives you the chance to filter the noise. Trust me once you are able to filter out the stuff that you’re not able to help control you’ll find the things that you can. You’ll be able to better tune yourself to where you’re needed. By taking that first step to find the thing that helps you achieve the meditative filter, you also will learn what brings you personally joy, and then you can help you to love you.
Gaining this filter, calm in the storm, whatever name you want to call it is important. It can be anything you want, a combination of things you do, or strategies to changing how to consume news. Finding what works can be a bit like shopping for a new shirt, car, what have you. You’re going to need to try some things before you find that thing that gives you the ability to slow down to sift through everything you feel on a day to day basis.
Empath to Self Love was written with the following quote in mind.
“If you have come to help me, you are wasting your time. If you have come because your liberation is bound up with mine, then let us work together.”
Lilla Watson, an Australian Aboriginal Elder